"i'm boss-ay!" - oh really?

 "you don't have to love me, you don't even have to like me--but you will respect me...you know why? cuz i'm a boss!" - kelis

My girls and I used to blast this song while crusin' down the boulevard back in high school and we thought that we had finally found our anthem for all the haters of there. that was four years ago, and now that I look back, I find  the song so trivial and juvenile. While I may still groove to it every now and then, in recent months it has been pretty big in the media how the number of single women, specifically black women is ridiculously high. And it's not just any type of black woman, but the "go-getter", the bread-winner, the "Miss Independent" that Ne-Yo sings to eloquently about. Is it wrong to be too "independent" or bossy now days? Does that really turn men off from wanting to date we women who are "always on our grind"?

As I was aimlessly floating around the Twitterverse yesterday, I came across a tweet that led me to the Facebook page and blog of Paul Carrick Brunson, the Modern Day Matchmaker. Ladies, have you ever wondered WHY after that amazing date the next day he didn't call us back? Well, Paul may be answer our questions and give us a few tips at why we didn't get that call, text or email the next day....






Even as a college student, I can honestly say that I fall in maybe one or two of those catagories - and it's so true! Sometimes those of us who are go-getters may be so focused and determined at aiming for the top that we lose sight of the simple things that make us feminine and sexy. Now, I'm not saying to completely deactivate the "go-getter" mentality, but we've gotta be able to play it up with our femininity and sexiness, and a hefty teaspoon of sass.

You can check out other episodes of Paul's "The Modern Day Matchmaker" at his website http://blog.onedegreefrom.me/; he's also on Facebook and Twitter http://www.twitter.com/OneDegreeFromMe. Check the brotha out ladies, he may be on to something ;-)

-*csc.

one year older, one year wiser.

"so long, farewell, my life's moving forward. my ship has sailed, & i'm so glad it's over. my heart is well,
after all that i've been through i found myself." - ciara

hi friends,

for those of my readers who have just complete their first week of spring semester, congratulations. i'm uber-excited about what this semester, let alone this year has in store. i've been blessed to see another year this week, and i couldn't be more thankful. as i sit here listening to "i found myself" by ciara, i can't help but think about all the things that i've experienced over the span of my life : hurt, happiness, heartache, joy, ect. but for the most part, i'm excited to move forward and live my life. for the longest, i feel like i've been living life in some what of a shadow, or as i put it earlier this week, using other people's lives as crutches to live mine. well, that ship has sailed and i feel liberated for some reason. twenty-one has brought me to a plateau of finally doing things that make me happy and being content with the person that i am. no one is perfect, and for the longest i've felt that i didn't fit into the mold that society is supposed to have for me, but you know what? f*ck that mold and the horse that it rode in on - i'm doing me finally and it feels pretty damn good.

no longer will i reduce the way i feel about myself to fit some fictitious mold that others around me think i should fit. this is my life and i only get one, i plan on living up. there are many responsibilities and priorities that come with being twenty-one, but i feel that i am very prepared to face them head first. i just feel this burst of energy that i've never felt before, a fire that has never blazed like this before in my heart. while there are some things that i will continue about myself, i'm just going to continue to do me, and that is all that i can do.

i will continue to P.U.S.H. and believe that everything will happen at the right place and time. i'm very hopeful for what life has in store, and i'm so blessed to be able to wake up day after day and experience it. <3

*-csc.

my latest, greatest inspiration: rip teddy pendergrass

i'm sad to report that we've lost another r&b legend - mr. "close the door" himself, teddy pendergrass has gone on home. with classics like "my latest greatest inspiration" , "TKO", "when somebody loves you back" , "come on over to my place" and many more, pendergrass was a voice of a generation of what real love feels like. so many artists of my time have sampled his music, and with me being the music aficionado, i knew their inspiration had come from something excellent. mr. pendergrass, thank you so much for your soothing melodies, sexiness and paving the way for the world of r&b music. you will surely be missed.

RIP<3

-*csc.

Please Donate to Haiti

i'm sure that you all are aware of the devastation that has hit the country of Haiti in the last 24 hours. so many lives have been loss and there are still many unaccounted for. Please, please, please give what you can. text "YELE" to 501501 and donate $5 to the earthquake relief fund. thousands of people need aid immediately. continue to keep the people of haiti in your thoughts and prayers as well as the many people here in the US who have family down in that region. to all of my friends, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your families in this time of grief and despair. let us remember that God makes no mistakes and never gives us more than we can bear.

god bless us all.

-*csc.

achieving your goals :: it's our time!

hey friends!

so check it, i went to this awesome networking event sponsored by L'Shanell Event Productions on wednesday evening at the salud lounge, located @ 1471 n. milwakee avenue in wicker park. let me just say that it was just an electrifying experience to be in one room with so many professionals in the world of fashion, photography and beyond. i got the chance to chit-chat with some folks, chow on some yummy appetizers and get my name out there.

even though i am a student, it is never too early to begin building a network. 2010 seems extremely promising for everyone and i am just extremely thankful that God gave me the strength to get up and go to this event. check out l'shanelle's website, facebook page and follow them on twitter -- chicago fashion is on the rise to take the world by storm!

website : http://www.lshanellevent.com/
twitter : www.twitter.com/chifashnconnect



don't stop believing + always keep dreaming!

<3*csc.

artist spotlight : tiffany evans

happy new year everyone!

i hope that everyone has gotten a wonderful start off to their 2010. i just want to show a little love to an up and coming artist by the name of tiffany evans. if you are familiar with any of the madea films, you remember her powerful voice from "a diary of a mad black woman'. one of my favorite scenes with her comes at the end when she showcases her talent in the song, "father can you hear me". she sings her 12-year old face in that song. now, the 17-year old is getting ready to release her sophomore album this year and i could not be more excited. i really hope that this time around her voice is put more in the spotlight, instead of fluffed up behind beats and other nonsense. thanks to b.scott for highlighting her talent on his website. i think once this young lady gets the right producers and writers behind her, she will be the next mariah or whitney. take a look at her singing whitney houston's 'i have nothing' below.

enjoy!

-*csc.