My beautiful black sistas, why must we continue to hate on/non-constructively criticize each other? As i was having a conversation with my sister this morning, I noticed that I had relentlessly joined in with her on her ranting about "friends" that she used to have in high school a year ago. Apparently, they're being catty a$$ b*tches if you ask me, but let me stop. I just don't understand the whole institution of black women being sour toward one another over irrelevant issues - things that took place in the past and that have no type of validity here in the present. Now don't get me wrong, there will be haters : where ever one may go - but the great black women of this world all had to deal with haters on their way to the top. My thing is, it's best to just kill them with kindness, make them look stupid & not even continue to ignite that fiery ball of hatred and jealousy.
I had to sincerely pull myself back from the route of calling those little girls b*tches & ho's because it just took too much energy to do that. Am i really making a difference by calling their bluff and acknowledging their schoolyard games? Of course not! So the best thing that I can do is just to ignore their childish games & keep being the great individual I am. Ladies, that's one thing that we have to learn - although are fellow female counterparts may not have the nicest attitudes toward us, we have to be the more adult individual, recognize their pettiness & establish a mutual understanding: you don't have to like me, but you will respect me. If she doesn't understand that, and tries to step to you in a way that is wayyy outside of her body, then you will be forced to thrash her *but we don't want to result to that* If we all just take a look around us, in our communities, our society, etc. we have strong black women that are a forced to be reckoned with. Our mothers, sisters, aunts, cousins, grandmothers, city aldermen and councilmen...and then move on to a grander scale, women like Oprah, Michelle Obama, Jada Pinkett Smith, Sonya Sotamayor - women who are doing BIG things. My sistas, we have to aspire to be great and encourage one another to do the same too.
Yeah, I've always wondered why black women were kind of vicious towards one another. I think black women overall are territorial and competitive ...which is something that makes an ideal partner. Someone who will ride or die, and push you to be a better person while doing it.
ReplyDeleteBut, they have that kind of drive and ambition that sometimes takes a mind of their own.