What's your definition of Love?

it's a question that i often have to take time out of my day and ponder about, but i think that there is more than one answer to it. before i even get into my answer,  have to shout-out my home girl amanda for posing the question and giving me that chance to flex my brain cells. ;-)

but when she asked me the question, i must say that i was caught off guard, but it made perfect sense considering the topics that we were discussing at the time. so after taking time to think about it, i gave her this definition:

"love can come three fold: love for family and friends, love for your Creator, and romantic love (this is basically agape, philos, and eros love). the love that i am most eager to experience is the latter because i have yet to know what that is like. that love that gives you butterflies everytime he texts you, calls you or lets you know that he's thinking about you. that love that reassures you that he's down for you no matter what, even when there are tough times. it's that love gives you the warm and fuzzy feeling everytime you close your eyes and imagine his presence..."

i gave support for my definition with my current favorite song, "there goes my baby" by usher because everytime i hear that song, it just makes me swoon and only imagine how it would feel to be the main topic of this song. but amanda made a good point: sometimes those butterflies are bees that sting, and you will have to, more often than not, continue to love that person through the stings. *still love that analogy, btw*

but what i've discovered from our conversation and even reflecting on the person that i am at this moment is that you have to consume a certain love for yourself before you can invite anyone else in to love you. by that i mean, fully accepting who you are, flaws and all--your good attributes, your not so good attributes and the things that make you, YOU. no one is perfect of course, but i feel at this point in my life where i am constantly evolving into this woman i see my self becoming, it's kind of inevitable. but i know with God's help, I that special person, who ever he may be, will walk into my life at the right time. in the mean time, i'm just going to continue to learn more about who i am, accept blessings that are coming my way and by loving me more, maybe even attract person without even trying.

love is more than just a figment of the imagination, it can and will be my reality.

-*csc.